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How To Deal With a Troubled Marriage

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Let me be completely honest, and you can quote me on this: EVERY MARRIED COUPLE HAS PROBLEMS! They might not show it to you on the street or in a gathering, they might in fact look like they are the most in-love couple in the universe, but behind closed doors, it’s a whole other story.

Whether your problems are severe or small, the solution is simple..

Examples:

  • Your husband hangs out with his friends all night and doesn’t come home until close to dawn. Number one: Don’t call or nag him while he’s at the diwaniya! By doing that you will make him look like an idiot in front of his friends and he will come home irritated. Instead, find a quiet time to sit with him and explain why this upsets you and make sure he understands your point. If he keeps doing this, then just keep quiet about it and go about your life, make sure you have your own independent schedule and social life, trust me when you’re not so clingy he will miss you and will make the effort to come home early.
  • Your husband sleeps out of the house. Well, did you know that Prophet Mohammed (PBUH) allowed the husband 3 days to sleep outside the house provided every fourth day he sleeps at home with you? That’s because a Muslim man is allowed four wives. When you put that into consideration it doesn’t seem so bad! Just always think of it as what God wills.
  • Your husband drinks, flirts, doesn’t pray etc. Try to talk to him about it calmly, and remind him that he is a Muslim and that God will punish him, and let him understand how much this hurts you. But don’t over do it! If after one, two or even several times he doesn’t stop, then just don’t talk to him about it anymore. Pray for him, pray in front of him, be the perfect wife, do your wifely duties, cook, tidy, and enjoy him. Make him your best friend. At night, read the Quran near him, egray 3alaih gala 6ol! 9alay jdamah, ba5reela el dar, wanseeh. Trust me one day he will realize that you stood by him all this time and he will change. In the mean time, e7tasbay el ajer! Allah is watching and He knows what’s happening. If you put all your faith in God and love God first, he will not let you down, trust me!

P.S. Remember! PATIENCE IS KEY!

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How To Throw a Bridal Shower!

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Step 1: Make a guest list.

Invite only the bride’s close friends and family. They should be people the bride loves. Make sure you let them know it’s a bridal shower so they bring gifts for the bride.

Step 2: Plan the menu.

Make sure you have plenty of choices to suit all tastes. For example if you have a heavy salad, make sure you have a lighter salad as an option for dieters. Also, finger foods are best, anything that doesn’t require cutting is easier for a buffet.

Step 3: Flowers.

You must have an idea of what the bride wants her bridal bouquet to be or at least her color preferences so that you can create that same theme for your flower arrangements. You will need a flower arrangement for each dinner table and some for the buffet.

Step 4: Ambience.

Oud music is ideal for an outdoor buffet. Buy a CD with some soft wedding dinner oud music to set the mood. Also, get some candles and put them in glass vases to put on the tables and on the floor, be careful not to have your candles exposed or you might have a fire hazard! If you have a pool, buy floating candles. Also, you can hang twinkle lights and switch off all other lights to provide a lovely romantic feel along with the candles. All these items are available at low prices at “Home Center”.

Step 5: Plan games.

Bridal games are a great way to break the ice and have a great laugh with your friends. Examples of appropriate games for a conservative crowd:

  • Test the bride’s kitchen skills by blindfolding her and making her identify some spices by smell.
  • Purse scavenger hunt. This one’s for the guests! The bride reads out items for the guests to dig out of their purses and the person who takes out the item first gets a point. The items range from the obvious like wallets, keys, to the strange like mascara, or dental floss!
  • How well do you know the bride? The bride asks questions about herself to the guests and the person with the most points wins!

You can find out more fun game ideas from the internet, but make sure you have prizes ready for the winners!

Step 5: Fake Champagne.

A fun new way to spice up a bridal shower is for the bride to pop a bottle of bubbly and to pour it out for the guests holding champagne glasses. Also the host or a close friend can give a toast wishing the bride good luck. My favorite non alcoholic champagne brand is “EVA” and the best flavor is peach, you can find it in most supermarkets.

Step 6: Decorate.

Buy banners and balloons from “Party Land” or “Balloony Land” to decorate your party, they also have badges and sashes that say “Bride” and you can buy cute little accessories like a mini veil for the bride from “Claire’s”.

Step 7: Order the cake.

A fun shape cake will be the star of the party! Most bakeries in Kuwait make them, just make sure you have a picture of exactly what shape you want and you must order the cake at least 3 days in advance.